So I think it is safe to say that there are very few people we encounter in our day to day life today that haven't had a water cooler debate about the state of the marriage of Jon and Kate Gosselin. Well fuel has just been added to those debates with the announcement on today's episode that they have separated (an announcement that is probably no surprise to most) and that earlier today they filed for the dissolution of their marriage in a Pennsylvania court.
I watched today's episode with my husband, discussing in between commercials what we had seen or what had been said in the previous segment. We each had our "she said", "he said" moments, but at the end of the day (or show), we remain on the outside looking in, and we will never know, and never presume to know, what it is like when the cameras are not rolling and they get to be just Jon, just Kate and just their 8. Ours is not to judge who is at fault in arriving at this moment in their lives, but I do know that ours is to keep them in prayer.
I find that what has become of them is very sad. They (or Kate) may say differently, but I can't help but think that "Reality TV" is the biggest contributor to their current state of affairs. I had been a fan of the show pretty much since the beginning. One of the key appeals to me was that they appeared to be such a grounded couple; grounded first in their faith, second in their marriage and lastly in the raising of their family.
I don't pretend to imagine what raising 8 children all under the age of 10 is like (I raised one and that was a handful for me!); nor do I pretend to imagine the pressure that raising a family under the scrutiny of camera places on a marriage. But being a believer, I do know that “All things are possible with God.” Mark 10:27; and that when we place Him first in our lives we don't have easier lives, but we do have a place to bring our troubles when the world around us fails. It troubles me to see that the ways of the world have so clouded their vision that it would appear that they have forgotten to put God first.
I pray that one day we may see a more amicable couple in Jon and Kate (whether married or divorced), but most of all I pray that they are able to continue to raise their 8 to be productive contributors to the world. However, maybe they need to do that off camera.